Self confidence means having trust in one’s own judgement and ability. It is reflected in one’s belief that he is a valuable person nd capable of accomplishing what he wishes to do.
“Self confidence can be learned , practiced and mastered just like any other skill. Once you master it , everything in your life will change for the better”-Barrie Devenport
Who is a confident person?
Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.
A confident person:
- does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular
- is willing to take risks
- admits their mistakes and learns from them
- is able to accept a compliment
- is optimistic.
Attitudes of people with low confidence
- FEAR : they are anxious about the possibility of failure.
- VALUE OTHER’S OPINION: they depend on other people’s approval and validation to feel good about their ideas.
- OVER CRITICAL: they tends to focus on their shortcomings like physical appearance, lack of knowledge, etc.
- POOR TIME MANAGEMENT: they are unable to decide on priorities and focus on tasks.
- UNPREPAREDNESS: since they do not expect success , they do not put in the necessary efforts.
- LACK OF INITIATIVE: they do not feel motivated to bring about change or improvisation.
- RELUCTANT TO DEAL WITH OTHERS: such people make excuses and try to evade confronting people.
- NEGATIVE OUTLOOK: they focus on past failures instead of learning from the experiences.
Tips for building self-confidence
There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.
- Think of things you’re good at
Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.
2. Talk yourself up
You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.
3. Look at what you’ve already achieved
It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you’ve done.
4. Get a hobby
Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.
5. Set some goals
Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.